No One Gets Married Wanting A Divorce

When you think back to your wedding day, what comes to mind? 

When most people think back to their wedding day, the usual feelings of love, devotion, nervous anticipation, and such hope for the future abound.

The ‘Great Australian Dream’ for many people starts with that sun filled, white dress day.

They dream of the love that will now illuminate their way through the years, they dream of the children that will come, the beautiful white picket fenced home filled with rambunctious noise, laughter and chaos throughout the years.

Kids’ soccer games and dancing lessons, fishing trips and golf days. Girls’ weekends and family Christmas craziness, stolen kisses and tenderness shared in the quiet moments once everyone is in bed or before the rest of the world wakes.  

And eventually, after a life lived filled to the brim with adventure, with kids, with anniversaries, with date nights and holidays and with an infinite amount of love poking through the very seams of it all, they will still have each other to grow old with, to laugh with, to love.

No one gets married dreaming of the day when they finally reconcile with themselves that this marriage might be over.

When the silence, or the tension becomes too much that one of you finally must stop and face the music. When the whisper becomes the roar.

Although the dysfunction may be functional - albeit for a while - deep down you know.

Deep down you always know.

When your soul can no longer keep up the façade of a happy family that is anything but, after you have given absolutely everything you have but it is simply not enough.

You quietly surrender, this marriage is over.

You dreamed many things on that glorious day of love and laughter and with the very best of intentions, but of all the things you dreamed for on that day- this was not one of them.

And yet here you are.

Wherever you are on your journey, even if you didn’t get married- you still had hopes for your future and for the love that you hoped would see you through your years.

And, if this is you - I am sending you a great big virtual hug right now. I’ve literally leapt through your screen and wrapped my arms around you.

Can you feel it? Ahhhh, there you go.

Reconciling with the fact that your marriage is over is like a tsunami of grief that completely barrels you over, often time and time again until you finally make peace with your decision, or your partner makes the decision for you.

The good news is I promise you that everything will be okay.

Not only can you survive this, but you can also take this leap of faith and turn it into one of the most transformational journeys that you will EVER go on, and never want to trade it for anything.

The happiness, the joy and the peace that can come from living your truth, to learning how to show up for yourself and your children in a truly authentic way - a life that feels as good on the inside as it does on the outside - creating a life that you love and deserve.

It's not easy, but my goodness, it makes it all worth it.

Sending you so much love,

Skye Xx